WEDDINGS ARE SO BEAUTIFUL

[jajalala]

I just attended a wedding for the first time this weekend and WOW..... so beautiful I understand why ppl are so crazy about 'em now. It's like, gathering a bunch of people you love to put everyone in a room to declare "And I love THIS person the very most :D".... wow.

The wedding was, from what I understand, on the smaller side, with only 30-something people. I was a close friend of the groom's in college (tho i knew the bride as well via the groom of course), and most the ppl there were friends of the bride/groom with a handful of close family. It was a super lovely outdoor ceremony in a gorgeous garden, the couple wrote their own vows, the bride cried like three times and was SO pretty and they were so HAPPY and omg how beautiful.

There was just so much love??? Not just the ceremony and the couple, but also everyone around. Like the day before and after the ceremony there was some hanging out between all the friends (and it was super fun to get to meet some other friends of my friend! We're college friends, so I didn't know their internet friends who traveled to join in or the bride's college friends). So it was like 2-3 days of just spending time together and getting to know these ppl who love the ppl I love and all that... like ngl I WAS exhausted by the end (and had a 6 hour drive there and back oof), but it was definitely a good experience.

In my head, I kind of always imagined I wouldn't want a wedding, I'd mostly have one if my partner wanted one, but it seemed like a bunch of stress and money and logistics that didn't seem worth it. After this though I kind of feel like.... I want to have a wedding and invite all the people I love and hang out and celebrate. (Now if only I had a partner to get married to XD).

I literally sobbed like a baby while driving home from the experience. I just kept thinking of the ceremony and how wonderful it is to love someone so much and to have them there and to declare to everyone how much you love them... and having an excuse to have everyone you love come over and spend time together, what a great time. Literally tearing up thinking of it again. Wow! Go weddings!

Comments

[corvidology]

My wedding was exactly about that and if it's what you stay focused on it doesn't have to cost an arm and a leg.

Weddings have become stupidly expensive because they've become performative.

[jajalala]

:D :D :D It makes me happy to hear you had a similarly wonderful wedding! I think my original impression was that it's always very performative, I'm happy to have that misconception corrected (at least in some cases)

[corvidology]

The truth is, you aren't any more 'married' if you spend $50,000* or $500 but that $50,000 puts an awful lot of financial strain on a relationship that's just starting out, as it usually involves massive credit card debt.

IF you happen to have the $50,000+ put it towards a house and really enjoy a simpler wedding that consists of immediate family and close friends. Friends of ours did this recently - they bought the house and had the wedding in their new backyard.

*Many weddings cost a lot more than this.

[jajalala]

Oooh a colleague of mine did something similar where they had pretty much no wedding (this was back during COVID-19's height as well), but a few years later they have now bought a house and are planning to do some sort of housewarming celebration with their family and friends similar vibes to a wedding.