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I was writing a comment on [personal profile] pendulumscale's post on the subject of zines culture nowadays (thanks [personal profile] vriddy for sharing!) but the response got p long and specific to my experiences so I thought I ought to share here on my own journal lol.

I'm relatively new to fandom compared to some of the fandom elders hopping around DW, but I've been actively writing fic for several years and got into doing fandom events last year. I remember sort of stumbling onto an event focused on a niche of mine that's very hard to search for on AO3 (Boku No Hero Academia femslash), and being super excited like "!!! Wait!! These ppl all like the niche thing I do :D :D :D omg I wanna join!"

And so I did and it was fun and I still talk to some of the fellow creators I met there today, but it catapulted me into the world of bangs and events in the My Hero Academia fandom... but with each event and ending up on the twitter-sphere, even if mostly just to keep an eye on them and observe others, I've been seeing that sort of corporate-ization of fandom that [personal profile] pendulumscale describes.

The Fandom Resume )

The not-fan fan events )

There is still passion out there! )

Of course it's easy to say "Just do things with your close fandom friends!" but at the same time, how do you meet those friends without those bigger events? How do u get to know them? What happens if u drift into different fandoms, and how do u meet new ones in ur new fandoms? etc etc... I guess that's the point of general social media, but that comes with its own wildness with 'the algorithm' and all that jazz.

As I get more entrenched it's clear fandoms are communities, but it's hard to control what a community is or will be, especially a huge one like BNHA, but it surprises how a big fandom can feel so lonesome/corporate sometimes.
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Had a conversation with a dear friend (and some others) and it's rough to see them suffering from certain body image issues... I never know what to say, since I very much missed the boat on absorbing a lot of those societal/social pressures. My family never really made comments about our bodies, and I'm a lil predisposed towards indifference when it comes to peer acceptance. Plus my body doesn't have many characteristics that folks/society looks down on, so those sorts of judgements have almost never been brought to the forefront of my mind.

Meanwhile I have close friends who talk about hating their bodies, even when they know they shouldn't or agree fully with body-positive movements... Intellectually nowadays they've read all those tumblr posts like "love your body for what it can do" or "everyone is beautiful" etc and agree with the sentiments, but they still privately struggle after absorbing a lot of messages from society (or their mothers -_-) from a young age.

I listen, but I never know what to say when they're struggling. I don't want to do a knee-jerk "You're not fat!" or "You're actually gorgeous!" that treats their real insecurities as compliment-fishing attempts (and at least one of those friends has explicitly told me she likes that I let her express her insecurities without immediately shutting her down and pretending that society doesn't judge certain body types), but it's hard to see them and love them and legitimately think they're beautiful, even in a "non-conventional" way, but be unable to make them see themselves in the way I see them.

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