Embrace spring and socializing
Apr. 18th, 2023 10:06 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jajalalaWinter is finally fading away, and the weather is getting warmer.... and I'm finding it's about time that I stop using the "it's cold out" to avoid going out and doing things. Especially since in my head I think it's fine and fun to just chill every day at home, but mentally I think I do much better when I push myself out to do some sort of activity or something at LEAST once a week (and do some smaller walks and stuff throughout the week)...
So the past two weeks or so I've been trying to go out more deliberately, tho I'm finding that I'm pretty terrible at my in-person social life XD. My dearly beloved roommate was out traveling for a week, so I decided to push myself to do some stuff on my own (she tends to be my auto-companion to any event), like seeing an avant-garde ballet (it was.... very avant garde) and checking out an art museum. It was fun!
But I'm kind of disappointed in myself for having a very limited social circle in the city... my primary in-person interaction is my roommate. There are a few gals a neighborhood or two over, but they were originally my roommate's friends, and altho I have to assume they enjoy my company well enough, I feel odd asking them to hang out without the roomie. Last year I did some online dating that was fun, and the guy I dated for awhile was a nice lil variety in socialization, but outside of that most my social interactions are phone calls to old buddies in other places, my family, or online interactions with fandom folks.
Recently my oldest brother has been pushing to hang out more in the city with me which has been fun so far, he lives outside of it but only an hour or so away, so a visit is feasible on weekends. And my older sister is planning to move here this summer, and I'm REALLY excited for that since we're very close in age and may be able to hang out very casually/regularly.... but I'd also like to maybe push myself to develop a better social circle. I live in a city, after all, in theory it shouldn't be so hard to find people to hang out with!
I guess I don't fully know how to develop a new social circle outside of school. I've been hearing u gotta go out and do activities, but even then I'm not sure how to cross that activity friend -> Hang out casually friend... But I do very few activities, so I think I need to push myself out there first and then figure out next steps XD.
My roommate and I went to a cool art activity thing last week, and although it took some time to travel there it was a really nice environment and had some cool people. I think we were both feeling somewhat shy since it was our first time there, but they seem to have at least monthly activities, so I think I'd like to go again and talk to some of the folks again.
So the past two weeks or so I've been trying to go out more deliberately, tho I'm finding that I'm pretty terrible at my in-person social life XD. My dearly beloved roommate was out traveling for a week, so I decided to push myself to do some stuff on my own (she tends to be my auto-companion to any event), like seeing an avant-garde ballet (it was.... very avant garde) and checking out an art museum. It was fun!
But I'm kind of disappointed in myself for having a very limited social circle in the city... my primary in-person interaction is my roommate. There are a few gals a neighborhood or two over, but they were originally my roommate's friends, and altho I have to assume they enjoy my company well enough, I feel odd asking them to hang out without the roomie. Last year I did some online dating that was fun, and the guy I dated for awhile was a nice lil variety in socialization, but outside of that most my social interactions are phone calls to old buddies in other places, my family, or online interactions with fandom folks.
Recently my oldest brother has been pushing to hang out more in the city with me which has been fun so far, he lives outside of it but only an hour or so away, so a visit is feasible on weekends. And my older sister is planning to move here this summer, and I'm REALLY excited for that since we're very close in age and may be able to hang out very casually/regularly.... but I'd also like to maybe push myself to develop a better social circle. I live in a city, after all, in theory it shouldn't be so hard to find people to hang out with!
I guess I don't fully know how to develop a new social circle outside of school. I've been hearing u gotta go out and do activities, but even then I'm not sure how to cross that activity friend -> Hang out casually friend... But I do very few activities, so I think I need to push myself out there first and then figure out next steps XD.
My roommate and I went to a cool art activity thing last week, and although it took some time to travel there it was a really nice environment and had some cool people. I think we were both feeling somewhat shy since it was our first time there, but they seem to have at least monthly activities, so I think I'd like to go again and talk to some of the folks again.
